I was seeing this couple once when the husband said, "Our marriage is over. I just can't forgive her anymore." I thought that was pretty intellectually honest. He understood that there is no way a marriage can survive without the element of forgiveness. He was unable to forgive and the marriage was doomed. Learning to forgive is a great way to save a marriage from certain divorce. Wouldn't it be worth saving your marriage if all it meant was to learn how to forgive?
Dr. Gary Chapman is best known for his seminal book, "The Five Love Languages." Did you know he also co-authored "The Five Languages of Apology?" In it he talks about the five ways a person can craft an apology that invites forgiveness. Some of the techniques are used by Richard Gere's character in the motion picture "Pretty Woman." How well do you speak apology? https://youtu.be/E_etHqPGUJk
Paul C. Kranz