There are four things we need to give up in order to forgive.
1. The right to get even. Releasing revenge, payback, or desire for the other perso to suffer equally.
2. The demand that the past be different. Accept that what happeed cannot be undone, even though it was wrong and painful.
Your claim to collect the emotional debt forever. Letting go of the idea that it is your right to punish the other person emotionally through guilt, shame or comdemnation.
Control over the outcome. Surrendering your need that the person fully understand, apologize in the perfect way, make certain changes, or make things right.
When you can give up these four things, then it is time to forguive.
1. The right to get even. Releasing revenge, payback, or desire for the other perso to suffer equally.
2. The demand that the past be different. Accept that what happeed cannot be undone, even though it was wrong and painful.
Your claim to collect the emotional debt forever. Letting go of the idea that it is your right to punish the other person emotionally through guilt, shame or comdemnation.
Control over the outcome. Surrendering your need that the person fully understand, apologize in the perfect way, make certain changes, or make things right.
When you can give up these four things, then it is time to forguive.
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